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Where traditional therapy ends Meta-ET BEgins!

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I was recently engaged in a conversation with a couple of young ladies who, while watching The State of the Union address, began to comment about President Barrack Obama. It began with this post: “Listening to a bunch of lies on TV! Yup, that’s our wonderful president!” Pause, and deep breath. Now…the key word here is “interpreting,” because clearly there was no way to verify any of these words as factual. Another young lady chimed in to agree. To sum up her thoughts, basically our president said that he was going to do whatever he wanted, without Congressional approval, and he said it so all the pretty people would clap and say he was the best. The first young lady decides the “f” word is appropriate here. (Insert “the look” here). Really? Or was he delivering the State of the Union address to the American people to lay out his ideas on how he views our current status…because that is part of the job description? Well, I guess we will never know. I didn’t get the chance to ask him. Did you? Whatever each of us walked away with…these are our opinions, not facts, right? But, I digress. After going back and forth a few rounds about respect with this young lady she concluded, “I said nothing but truth…he {our president} is a wordsmith who knows how to sway people with words that are just covering lies.” And then she lovingly added, “obviously we don’t agree on what is an attack…my comments on this post are not attacks…I have seen way worse…they are truth.” (Face palm—that’s me!) It is important to note here, she had just told me she hadn’t done any name-calling, but I do believe if I accused you of lying, you would probably say that was name-calling, true? And breathe…

So, here’s my beef. I don’t really care what anyone believes politically. I think our entire system is a disaster—and political parties are a huge contributing factor—but that’s just me. However…we live in a country where we have that freedom to align with whatever serves us best—and we should count our blessings that we do live in such a country! We are supposed to intellectually view the proposals and weigh in with our votes as to what we would like to see happen. Doesn’t mean we will always get our way—this is a “majority rules” kinda place. And the God’s honest truth is…if you are a Democrat and you have a Democratic president, you will probably agree with most things he/she says, and if you are a Republican whenever a Democrat is president, you are probably going to disagree with a lot of the politics…and vice versa. Pretty sure the founding fathers knew that going in. Okay. Fair enough. Our founding fathers did a great job of setting up checks and balances to keep everyone in check (prior to lobbyists, I might add). That’s not what has me so riled. What bothers me is the new low we have reached since this president was elected in just saying whatever the heck we want to say…as if our president is some school-yard friend on Facebook that we are upset with at the moment. Whatever happened to respect?

A Canadian, William Thomas, published an article in a senior magazine titled, “America, He’s Your President, for Goodness Sake!” in October 2010 where he said of President Barrack Obama, “The man is being challenged unfairly, characterized with vulgarity and treated with the kind of deep disrespect to which no previous president was subjected.” After much research on this topic, it has been proven true that Americans have reached a new low in criticizing the Leader of the Free World in ways that would make our grandparents turn over in their graves! What happened here? I don’t want to get into a discussion of racial profiling here…the jury is still out on that one. But whatever it is that suddenly gave the green light to disrespect our president needs to be undone. I will never forget watching on live television as one of the congressional members yelled out, “You lie!” right in the middle of one of President Obama’s early addresses. (He handled it much better than I did!! I was stunned, and I remember looking at my husband and asking, “Did he just call the president a liar?” Wow!) As we sink to this kind of low, it throws open wide the door to chaos and ego-driven separation. God, help us all! Yes, in past times we did disagree with one another in many areas, but never, ever, ever did we feel the kind of hatred that is spewed all over one another millions of times per day in recent years. And under no circumstances did we disrespect our elders—not because they “earned” our respect, but because it was morally the right thing to do. Here’s how I see it these days. Many people feel everyone starts with ZERO and has to work their way up to a passing grade. In other words, you have to come up to where I will accept you. As a former teacher, I always told my students on the first day of class, “Today, you begin with a score of 100. You keep it or lose it—that’s up to you—but I want you to understand the level of faith I have in you today is 100%.” And just because I disagree with your opinions and beliefs–that does not equate to loss of respect. Our Eastern friends seem to be much better at this than Americans. They practice respect.

Just a couple of years ago, I had over 2,000 friends on Facebook. Many of them I’d known since childhood. But, day after day, I read some of the most horrifying judgments about one person or another—and yes, lots about our current president. Honestly, I am not opposed to healthy, respectful exchanges of opinion…but unfortunately, I rarely witness that anymore.  I remember one former high school friend who challenged, “Tell me ONE good thing about Obama. I dare you to find anything.” Forty comments later—after reading some of the most hate-filled, disrespectful, horrifying comments ever, I could no longer restrain myself. I wrote:

“President Obama, just like Former President Bush, is an incredible father and a wonderful husband. They both take care of themselves, physically, and work hard for our country.”

Dead silence. The comments ceased. The next day, I was deleted and blocked. Well, I guess he didn’t really want to know, did he?

Finally, I said, “That’s enough!” I closed that account and started again. This time, I vowed to only “Friend” those who could have civil discussions without attacking the person themselves. It’s fine to disagree with ideas—just don’t destroy the person. Most people are good…really they are! In fact, I love debating people with ideas different than my own. It educates me and helps me to clarify whether or not a current belief is truly serving me. But I will absolutely insist on respect…and I promise to do the same with you. What’s respect? Simple. We agree to follow The Golden Rule.

I thank God tonight that I deleted most of my 2000 friends a while back. Even though I am not listening to all the hate talk going on tonight, I know it is out there. I choose to speak love, peace, cooperation, compromise and acceptance. Anyone with me?

As the mother/grandmother of an 18-year-old and 3 other grown children, I have witnessed virtual bullying for quite some time, and have seen it worsen with each new year. Without coming face-to-face with one another, there are those who feel some sense of justification for uncensored and often vicious attacks on each other. The new label for this is “Superiority Syndrome.” And what bothers me most of all is how so many who employ this type of behavior curse their brothers and sisters in one sentence, and praise the name of God in the next. Blasphemy! You cannot have it both ways. What’s it going to be?

You don’t have to love our president.  You don’t have to agree with any of his party politics.  You can say you feel he is ineffective, if that is what you believe. But please…don’t judge him as a person nor call him names.  Do you know him?  Have you met with him and learned who he is and why he has come to his beliefs?  You see, in truth, we cannot walk in anyone’s shoes but our own, and we will always see things from a very skewed perspective, based on our own experiences.  It can be no other way.  But let us not judge one another for what we have come to accept in our belief systems.  It’s all okay!

As for me, I chose long ago. I decided to love my neighbors as myself…all of them. I was lovingly taught that God is All and I stand steadfast in that understanding. And it is because of that understanding I can say tonight, “Regardless of our differences, I wish you well.” But also know this, I respect myself enough to know when to walk away from a “friend” who only wants to remove the speck of sawdust in his/her brother’s eye while paying no attention to the plank in his/her own. Yes, I’m disappointed in a society that has polarized itself close to the point of no return, but I’ll get it over it. Why? Because that is what I would want you to do for me. God Bless!

Jodi McDonald
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